Single or not to be Single

Heheh love this title :D

I've just read a blog of someone who is proud to be single. Or, yeah, prolly got confused but then decided to be proud of being single. I'm not gonna judge her for her choice, but I guess the only consistent woman who is proud being single is my auntie. 70ish, single, and consistent.

Why did I say that? 'Coz 'single women wannabe' are always trapped in their unstable emotion. You may find them in an office, where they're being employed for decades, as a person who always in a war with others. They are known as selfish, arrogant, yet sensitive and attention-seekers. They can roar showing off their authority, but when they feel like being left out - they cry.

They are stranded and trapped in ambition of being the best. However, they never know why they have to pursue it. Prolly they just want to compensate their loneliness.

I used to live single for such a long time, happy with my singleness but worried for my loneliness. Busy with unknown ambition, lost in a bad-tempered attitude then ended up being lonely. If I remember those days, I m so grateful that I've passed the days of being "confused".

I feel my life is light and easier now, happy with achievements I got (not "made", coz I just let them come themselves to me), friends around me, and opportunities that politely knock on my door. Love and relationship are complicated game, but once you get the right card, you may control them.

I am easily saying now, that I want to get married and raise a dearly family. Dream job can wait, but the opportunity of raising your own kids is limited.

Some women are too afraid of marriage. Usually, they have a trauma back then, when they experienced a divorce. Or, they're too afraid of loosing their liberty. They were raised in a circumstance where women are strictly forbidden to speak. These fears create paradigm that marriage is an enemy for freedom.

I personally choose to achieve both my freedom of speech as well as marriage. By working hard and use my rational choice, I seek for the top of my achievement, be proud of whatever I can get, and be grateful.  Meanwhile, a romantic relationship won't come if I don't cultivate my interpersonal skill. Positive reputation among the people around you is essential. However, good reputation comes from a peaceful heart. Your personality represents your inner side. In a nutshell, I try to balance my own ambition by letting my glass half filled. You can't have everything in basket. Give others a space.

Some of my single friends say that they haven't meet their Mr Right. I dunno what Mr Right is, but choosing a husband is like doing an investment. You need a rational choice, because he'll live with you till you die. There's also a risk to be considered but no one's perfect. All you need is a brave heart to start the business. Invest, control the ups and down, and manage the risk.

As long as I know, 'you'll get what you give'. How people treat you depends on how you behave. If you protect yourself, you won't be harmed. If you hurt people, they will hurt you in return. 

For those who decide to be single like my aunt, consistency is a must. I'm proud of her for enjoying her single life without complaining till now. She faces life bravely and independently. But I must say that being single does make her self-centered and a bit anti-social. That's the consequences she must face.

Well, this year, I confess that I don't wanna be single forever :) 

Rose of Versailles

This used to be one of my favorite comic when I was a teenager, after spending my childhood with the European comics. Compared to the other japanese girl-comic, Rose of Versailles hooked me with its historical, yet controversial story.

Oscar Francois de Jarjayes, the hero in this comic, is a young girl who was raised a man. She ought to be the successor of her father, a commander of the French Royal Guard. Struggling with a dilemma between her responsibility as the Royal family's guard and her sympathy to the revolutionists, her life was full of glory and agony at the same time.

As a teenager, this controversial story between morality and immorality must be very 'romantic'. I agree that the bisexuality and the political issue in the story is not a consumption for someone whose psychology is not stable. Teenager, whose thought is still blended between rationality and irrationality, could be easily driven by the idea of abnormal sexual orientation. For those who are more stable but family is facing hard times or parents are divorce , this comic could emphasize whatever paradigms occur in the teenager's mind.

When I was young, Oscar's personality amazed me. Feeling different with my female peers, I found a justification of my boyish-masculine personality in Oscar. Even my ideal man is represented in Andre, Oscar's true love. Andre was the grandson of The Jarjayes family's servant, lived as Oscar's childhood friend and be her best friend and personal adjutant till they both grown up. .

Some points in the plot came into reality. I visited Marie Antoinette's childhood palace in Austria, the Schonbrunn palace in 1999. My job now is related to politics, diplomacy, and the government.

However, I took some positive values from this comic. The idea of "dignity", "egalitarianism", "braveness", "hardworking to success" and "friendship" had emphasized what my parents had thought me.

I also read Ryoko Ikeda's other comics, The Window of Orpheus. This comic had lead me to take another piano lesson in Jakarta Conservatory then had my recital twice! ^_^ (to be continued)